I'm staying

In this post I told about how I quit my job. The date of that post was July 14th but I had actually quit a month before but it hadn't been made public.

Well, weeks continued to go and my boss refused to let me go. Now, he wasn't holding me hostage and I could have just walked out but I felt I owed him to give him as much help as he needed in the transition. Well, the weeks turned into months, three to be exact.

This all turned out to be a huge blessing provided by God because circumstances changed so that it would be prudent for me to postpone my entrepenurial ventures and still having a job was very beneficial.

So, for now I am still working for the man.

The Good Ole Days

There is a lot of problems with our economy right now but I don't think we understand how well we have it.

For example, in 1935 the average worker had to work 6 hours to buy 10 gallons of gas, today it is only 2 hours. In 1950, a basket of groceries that took 4 hours of work to purchase only takes 1.7 hours today. Our average life expectancy is up from 67 in 1950 to 78 now.

Read this interesting article.

I stink

Last night Chase looked at me and said "You stink!"

That is a real ego booster..

Cowboys 27, Packers 16

The Cowboys finally broke their losing streak at Lambeau field so now we won't have to hear about that anymore.

It was a good game for the Cowboys. Now, it didn't feel like they were dominating but after the 1st quarter, it wasn't really close. The defense played well and the running game was solid.

The other aspect was that they cut down on some of the penalties and that was good to see.

We now have another division game so it doesn't get any easier next week.

Church

I didn't grow up going to church. In fact, I don't remember ever going to church with my family.

Now, fast forward 30 years. On any given week my boys are stepping in at least 3 churches and possibly 4.

We are members and attend almost every week a very influential "megachurch." We are involved as well and are often up there on other days as well. Our youngest attends a pre-school run by a small Church of Christ church, both boys go to a large Southern Baptist church each week and participate in their Awanas program, and on the weekends either we or the boys are visiting Shelley's mom, we will attend a small Southern Baptist church in Oklahoma. In each of these churches there are people we care very much for but more importantly their are many people that love and care for our boys.

No matter which church we are in and they are all quite different, our boys are always running, playing and laughing. They love it there. My heart is always warmed by watching them and I just think back and wonder "what if?"

Our House Stinks

Yes, our house stinks. It really smells bad. We thought originally that it was the garbage disposal but now that it has taken over the house we have come to the conclusion that something has died inside one of our walls.

We are open to any and all suggestions.

Cowboys 41, Eagles 37

What a way to send Texas Stadium out on Monday night! It was an incredible game and the Cowboys never gave up. There are a lot of positives like Felix Jones, T.O., Witten and Nick Folk.

But, the penalties and the turnovers continue to haunt us. They can't continue to have 10+ penalties a game and losing the turnover battle.

It doesn't get any easier from here because they now have to travel to Green Bay for a Sunday night game.

Dear Mr. Obama

September 11, 2001

Never Forget!

God Bless America.

Lunesta

I have always had an unusual sleep pattern. I usually only get 5 to 6 hours of sleep every night and am usually up by 5:30 am (Sleeping to 6 am in sleeping in for me). But, also during the 5 to 6 hours I am sleeping, I usually wake up every hour or so. This is the way it has always been and my body has adjusted.

But, since I get so little sleep on a good day, any disruption can leave me feeling exhausted. Over the past month, I have not slept well and have been physically, mentally and emotionally drained.

There is another person I know who probably has an even crazier sleep pattern and that is my wife. Several months ago when she was having some physical problems the doctor prescribed some Lunesta because he felt some of the issues were because of a lack of sleep.

So, last night I tried one of her Lunestas and all I can say is WOW! It is actually a little scary because remember very little after I took it and I don't think I even moved during the night. Someone could have come in, stuffed me in a bag and thrown me into the Hudson river and I would have never known it.

Short Timer Part 2

Still at work and here is what I have been up to.

Cowboys 28, Browns 10

It was a good first game and it is always good to get a win.

But, they had way to many mistakes. There were too many penalties and 1 turnover. Also, it didn't seem like we were able to get much pressure on the quarterback.

The offense looked good and except for the interception Romo looked good. Also, Barber looked like his old self and Felix Jones looks like an adequate back up.

Next up is the Eagles and that will be an important game.

1 Peter 1:7

These trials will show that your faith is genuine. It is being tested as fire tests and purifies gold - though your faith is far more precious than mere gold. So when your faith remains strong through many trials, it will bring you much praise and glory and honor on the day when Jesus Christ is revealed to the whole world.

More Curve Balls

Over three years ago one of my first blog posts was a post called "Life's Curve Balls."  Right now, life has thrown me several curve balls that I never saw coming and some of them have been right at my head.  The most disappointing thing is that the person standing on the pitcher's mound is someone I care deeply about.

The other day I read a quote from Brian Houston of Hillsong Church where he said, "Leadership is proven in the valleys, not at the mountaintop!"

Well, I also believe character is proven in the valleys as well and I have learned a lot about people's character.  

John McCain wasn't my first choice for the Republican nominee but I have gained a lot of respect for him as I have heard his story.  He never quit, never backed down and he kept fighting and in the end he was victorious.  Well, I'm not backing down from this fight either and I will come out the other side a better person.

Joshua 1:9

I command you - be strong and courageous!  Do not be afraid or discouraged.  For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.

Our Next Vice-President

I think I am in love.

Haven't Felt Like Blogging

My blogging has been a little limited lately and basically because I just don't feel like it. August has been a challenging month. I hoping to be back into a routine soon.

Happy Birthday To Me

Today I am 42 and I feel it, not physically but emotionally. Now, I do have a few more aches and pains than I did 10 years ago but I think I am overall in better shape. But, emotionally and mentally I feel the oldest I have ever felt. I am really hopefully that I will get through this time period soon.

Worry

I am a professional worrier. I have been doing it as long as I can remember and even had an ulcer by the time I was 16. Even if there isn't anything to worry about, I then worry about that. I find myself actually looking for things to worry about at times.

Tonight, Craig Groeschel from Lifechurch.TV visited our church and presented a message about worry entitled "Choked Out". I learned that I have made worry my friend when it is actually my enemy.

His definition of worry is "worry is the sin of distrusting the promises and power of God."

The 3 steps to stop the strangle hold of worry.

1. I will do what God asks me to do.
2. I will give God what I cannot do.
3. No matter what happes I will trust God.

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart aand lean not on your own understanding ; in all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight." Proverbs 3:5-6

I have already started practicing these 3 steps and have found a change in my outlook.

God is good..

Day 4 with the boys

Today was another good day with the boys. We had a little different routine because I was a guest speaker at Shelley's class so that meant they spent about 3 hours in one of those hourly daycare. They love it so they had a good time.

It has been fun to be with them and just observe them all day.

One thing that happens in our house quite often is I have customers coming over a lot picking up guns. This has come quite routine for everybody so today it became part of the boys play. I didn't know what they were doing when Seth shut Chase in the pantry. Chase then knocked on the door and Seth declared, "we have a customer." He then opened the door and Chase entered and said "I've come to pick up a gun." So, I pretended to give him a gun a fill out all the appropriate paperwork, which he had to sign of course. It was great fun...

Day 3 with the boys

Today was Day 3 with the boys. It was pretty uneventful and nobody ran away from home.

I am finding that working from home is going to take some getting used to. I am finding that I don't feel as productive and am easily distracted. Also, it is hard to shut it down. I find myself going back even more than usual to check my email, IMs, tweets, etc. And, when it is all said and done, I think of more things I could have done.

It also doesn't help that I am playing referee, waiter, nurse, chef and tv operator to two little boys.

Running Away

Today at lunch I commented how Chase had done a good job at eating his lunch. For some reason this really upset Seth and he got very angry. He started stomping around, he turned his back to me and then he went to his room and slammed the door.

He then returned to declare "I am running away from home for real."

"Tomorrow I am leaving and I'm not going to see my family anymore."

Chase replied with, "I'm going to spank his butt."

He then went to to his room. A little while later I went to check on him and heard him sobbing and between sobs he said to himself, "if I leave I am going to miss mommy."

He then later came out and declared he wasn't going to run away. What a relief, I was so worried.

Day 1 of "Home with the Boys"

Yesterday was Day 1 of me being "Home with the boys" and it went very well. We had breakfast, picked up toys, took baths, ran errands, ate lunch, took naps, went to piano lessons and then came home and made dinner.

We had only a few skirmishes and only 1 instance of someone getting sent to their room. Great success!

But, I did find it hard to get into a work rhythm and once I am trying to do this full time I will have to figure that out.

Home with the boys

Back in this post I wrote that I had quit my job and was going to pursue my own business. Well, that is still the plan but as of right now, I haven't been able to leave my other job. But, because of other commitments, I am staying home all week with the boys. This should be great opportunity for me to start getting used to working out of the house and share the space with 2 little boys and Shelley.

Shelley won't be around this week so it will just be the 3 boys so this should be really interesting. I'm not sure how it will work but I bet we are going to have a great time. I just pray we don't kill each other.

Oklahoma

We just got back from spending the weekend in Oklahoma at Shelley's mom's. I've probably mentioned before but Shelley comes from a big family and they had a get together this weekend.

There are a lot of reasons we go up there but here are two of them.

Family

They are a bunch of wonderful people and they have made me feel like a member from day one. They also will all do anything for each other. Now, don't get me wrong, they aren't perfect but they do care for one another and this goes through all the generations. When we are up there, hours can go by without us knowing where our children are but we do know that they are in good hands. We might not know whose hands have them at that moment but we know someone is looking out for them. Also, those hands might just be as young as 10 years old but they have all learned from a young age to look out for the little ones.

And, when we locked our keys in our car this morning, it was just minutes before an Uncle and the husband of a cousin were on site and within minutes had our door unlocked for us.

When you are there you can't help notice the warmth and love that runs through the house.

Food

Then there is the food. I won't go into much detail but it is really incredible. Last night my favorites were the fried okra and the home made ice cream. There were plenty of others but you just can't beat those two.

Olympics

The Olympics are starting tonight and I am wondering if I am the only one who doesn't have a lot of interest. There was a time when I would be all geared up to watch some track and field, swimming, diving, boxing and yes, even some gymnastics. But right now I am not even interested.

I wonder if it is sports overload at this point. The Cowboys play their first preseason game this weekend, the Rangers are in the wild card race and the PGA championship is this weekend. Maybe. I wonder if it is because it is in China and just seems to be another world away? Maybe.

I love the Olympics and I hope my interest increases.

Short Timers Disease

What I have been doing with my time at work.

(They are not glued or stuck together. They are actually balanced)

Dinner and a Movie

When Shelley and I went on our first date I defaulted to the standard "dinner and a movie." I took her to Pappadeaux's and to see this movie. Little did I know that she doesn't like seafood and hates going to movies. (It's a miracle I got a second date.)

In fact, in the 11 years we have been together I could probably count on one hand the number of movies we have gone together. I could also probably count on the other hand the number of movies that I have rented that she has sat through as well.

So, imagine my surprise a couple of weeks ago when I turned on Batman Begins and she sat through and watched all of it with great interest. I was even more surprised when a week later I suggested going to see The Dark Knight and she actually said yes.

Then last night I come home to find this movie on our DVR and once again she watched it with great interest.

Why all this sudden interest in movies I asked myself.

Well, I started to notice a pattern. What do all of these movies have in common? Yes, they all star Christian Bale and I am quiet certain, given the opportunity she would leave me for him in a heart beat. But, I'm comfortable with that.

Dallas Cowboys' Stadium Update

Here are a bunch of new photos of the Cowboys' Stadium. These pictures don't give you a true impression of just how big this thing is.

It's HOT

I love living in Texas but this is the time of year it really test my love.

The Dark Knight

Shelley and I went and saw The Dark Knight last night and all I can say is "WOW."

It is very, very dark but it is a thrill ride. I was exhausted after it. I spent over two hours on the edge of my seat.

I recommend going to see it.

Cowboys' Training Camp Starts Tomorrow

Dallas Cowboys' training camp starts tomorrow. I love this time of year.

Hype: The Movie

Hype: The Movie

Adventure Weekend

We just wrapped up Adventure Weekend, our church's version of Vacation Bible School. Shelley and I volunteered, Seth was in the Kindergarten class and Chase was in pre-school childcare.

It was a long couple of days but I can tell you it was awesome. Volunteering was a blast but exhausting. I know Seth had a great time. He had 7 friends he had invited and I think they all had a great time. (I'll let Shelley tell you the other cool part of the story). And while it was a long day for the little one, Chase had a great time as well.

We go to a really cool church and I know they affected many lives this weekend.

I Quit Another Job

I have now quit another job. This is now twice in 14 months that I have quit a job.

This is a big step because I don't have a paying job that I am moving to. As many who read this know, about 18 months ago, I started my own business. This little venture has grown quite a bit despite me only working on it a few hours a week. Now, my brother has been working it full time since last October but we still haven't been able to pay him and don't anticipate being able to pay either one of us for at least a few more months.

So, why I am I doing this? Well, I've always had a feeling that God had something great planned for me and so Shelley and I have prayed and feel this is the best time to try this. I haven't ever been someone who felt that God had spoken to them but I have to say, over the last few months God has been very clear. If this will work, I don't know, but I do know that God has great things planned and this is the first step to get there.

Lordy, Lordy Look Who's 40

Happy Birthday to my wonderful wife.

My Wife

I just want to go public and announce that I have the most fantastic, amazing and incredible wife.

She is my rock!

She has shown incredible faith and given immense support to me. We are in the middle of some BIG life changes and she is behind me yelling "Go, Go."

We have prayed and prayed and prayed and done our best to listen to God and both feel this is what we are supposed to do. This gives me a lot of strength to push forward but without the support of Shelley it would be so easy to just give up on the idea.

I love her with all my heart.

I'm not good at being sick

One thing I'm not good at is being sick. I've been sick for the last 3 days and I hate it.

I hate going to the doctor and usually wait too long before giving in and going. I am also very needy. I don't like to be alone in my suffering. I think Shelley has had her fill of me and is ready for me to go back to work.

Ten Commandments of Fatherhood

I got this from A Family Runs Through It and just had to share it. Plus I wanted it so I could easily reference back to it.

In his 1998 book Tommy and Me, Ben Stein chronicles his feelings of frustration and joy of being a father. It's a short book, at 152 pages, and contains many insights into parenting that made me stop and think. I especially enjoyed his concluding chapter. Here it is (in abridged form):

Ben Stein's Ten Commandments of Fatherhood:

1. Time is of the essence. Spend large amounts of time with your child. Kids don't want "quality time"... They want you to be there all the time.

2. Share your strength with your child. Be an ally, not an adversary. Share with him stories of your own fears, failings, and anxieties and how you overcame them.

3. Do not expect your child to make for your own losses when you were a child. Let your kids pursue their own hopes and dreams.

4. Look for the good in your child and praise it. Children are nurtured by praise as plants are nurtured by water. Deny it to them at their peril and yours. Children who are told that they can succeed in fact usually do succeed.

5. Do not allow your children to be rude. Being polite is a basic foundation of human interaction, and kids will not succeed in life if they're surly and disrespectful.

6. Patience is indispensable. Children's behavioral flaws cannot be corrected by flipping a switch. It takes a long time and a lot of patience to teach positive behaviors. If you are an impatient, demanding, short-fused dad, you will get that irritable, demanding kind of kid.

7. Teach your child and let him teach you. Children will tell you what they want and need. Dads get into trouble when they do not listen to their kids and dismiss their feelings as not important. Also, your child should get the benefit of your wisdom and experience about life, so tell him what you know about the world around you. Learn from your children and let them learn from you.

8. Value your child for what he is, not for what you think he should be. I want my son to know that whatever he becomes in the future, he is prized just for being my son, right now.

9. Raising a child is a job for Mom and Dad. Children with absent fathers are wounded for the balance of their lives. Dad should and must be in there pitching along with Mom, helping out as an equal partner in the tough job of raising children. The true heroes of our generation are at home with their kids.

10. Being a Daddy is priority number one. When you decide that your kids come before your sales quota or your poker-playing schedule or your overtime to make partner, then you will find that all of the other pieces of Daddyhood fall into place - teaching and learning, patience, looking for the good and praising it. When you put your kids first, you are far less alone in this world. What's more vital, so are they.

Heard in the car

On our way to see fireworks Seth asked, "why do they call them fireworks?"

Chase replied, "because they have Fire and they Work"

3 Ways To Lower Gas Prices

Video Link

Sign the Petition for "Drill Here, Drill Now, Pay Less" here.

Living Alone

I have spent the last 3 nights home alone as the boys are at their grandmother's and Shelley is volunteering at a church camp. What have I learned? I don't like living alone.

The first night I was laying in bed with a strong urge to talk to someone and this is from someone who really doesn't like to talk. I even had the thought, "why am I feeling this way?"

After thinking about it I realized in my nearly 42 years, I have lived alone for only 28 months.

I lived at home until I was 18 when I went off to college where I always had roommates. After graduating from college I continued to have a roommate until I got married at 23. I was married for 6 years and then I got divorced thus starting my 28 months of living alone. But, I really wasn't alone because I had my trusty dog that greeted me enthusiasticly when I came home. And yes, I did talk to her.

But, now I sit here alone with my only communication with the outside world being Twitter.

30 Days on FX

I have heard a lot of good things about the series "30 Days" on FX but haven't found the time to sit down and watch it. Well, this week I am going to make sure I at least record it.

A gun control activist spends 30 days living with a gun enthusiast and working in a gun store. I'm interested...

Here is a synopsis from their website.

PARTICIPANT - Pia Lalli, 39
RESIDES - Brockton, MA
OCCUPATION - Aerobics Instructor
AIRDATE - Tuesday, July 1, 2008

After Pia learned that her friend had been killed by a schizophrenic man wielding a gun in 1996, she became a gun control advocate who has fought to pass stricter gun laws in the U.S. Pia believes that the world would be free from gun violence only by prohibiting the sale of guns to anyone outside of law enforcement and armed services.

For 30 Days, Pia will live in the heart of gun culture in the rural town of Leesburg, Ohio with gun enthusiast Ken Ekermeyer, 39, and his 15-year-old son Zach. Ken is an avid gun collector and rarely leaves home without his gun strapped to his side. Ken believes carrying a gun is his right guaranteed to every American by the Second Amendment. As Pia struggles to understand the Ekermeyer's beliefs and somewhat isolated way of life, she will work at a local gun store and experience what it is like to carry a gun in public, learn to handle and fire weapons and will introduce Ken to other gun control activists who have lost loved ones to gun violence.

Father of some preacher men

The boys attended a vacation bible school last week and since then we have been playing church every day.

Sometimes we are playing vacation bible school where Shelley and I are the students and Seth and Chase are our teachers. Other times the boys are just preaching. They both have a fire and brimstone style. We have even been party to some faith healing when Chase had "pains in my stomach" and seth laid hands on him.

25 Days until Cowboys Training Camp

Have you hugged your spouse today?

I used to see bumper stickers that would say "Have you hugged your kid today?" Obviously, it was implying that hugging your kids was good for them and who can argue with that? But, I have come to believe that the best thing you can give your kids is a solid marriage so I think a more important question is "Have you hugged your spouse today?"

See this post from my wife.

5 to 4

I was a little disappointed that the Supreme Court decision was just 5 to 4. To me, it is obvious the founders always intended it to be an individual right and how 4 justices came to the conclusion they didn't is beyond me.

The Swimmer

There are a lot of things I love about being a father but one thing I really love is watching my boys learn and discover.

I love taking them to new places and watch as they see things they have never seen before. Now, sometimes their enthusiasm isn't as great as mine but I'm growing and it doesn't bother me like it used to.

I really love to watch them learn a new skill. Recently Chase started riding a bicycle and the thrill on his face was worth all the battles we had that day.

Well, last night Seth started swimming. He's taken lessons in the past but it just hadn't started taking. He loves water and getting in the pool but as recently as last week wouldn't put his head under the water. Last night I watched him throw himself into the water and swim a few feet under water. It is so cool to watch them when they finally get "it."

I asked him what made him try swimming under water and he replied, "Well, Daddy, I had been trying to swim on top of the water and it wasn't working so I thought I would try swimming under the water."

So cool...

Brady Campaign

Here is some of the email I got from the Brady Campaign regarding the Supreme Court decision. (Yes, I get emails from the Brady Campaign. You have to keep an eye on the opposition).

Dear jeff,


Just hours ago, the U.S. Supreme Court handed down its ruling on the most significant Second Amendment case in our country's history, District of Columbia v. Heller.

I want you to know that we have hit the ground running. Our fight to enact and defend strong gun laws to save lives will be undiminished.

The Heller decision will no doubt embolden ideological extremists to file new legal attacks on existing gun laws. But with the help of the Brady Center’s legal team, those attacks can, and must, be successfully resisted in the interest of public safety.



I must be one of those "ideological extremists" they are talking about.

This is a big win but we can't stop fighting because I know the other side isn't going to stop.

Supreme Court Rules DC Gun Ban is Unconstitutional

This is a big win. I'll have a lot more on this over the next few days but here is something from the Scotusblog.

Answering a 127-year old constitutional question, the Supreme Court ruled on Thursday that the Second Amendment protects an individual right to have a gun, at least in one’s home. The Court, splitting 5-4, struck down a District of Columbia ban on handgun possession.

Justice Antonin Scalia’s opinion for the majority stressed that the Court was not casting doubt on long-standing bans on carrying a concealed gun or on gun possession by felons or the mentally retarded, on laws barring guns from schools or government buildings, and laws putting conditions on gun sales.

In District of Columbia v. Heller (07-290), the Court nullified two provisions of the city of Washington’s strict 1976 gun control law: a flat ban on possessing a gun in one’s home, and a requirement that any gun — except one kept at a business — must be unloaded and disassembled or have a trigger lock in place. The Court said it was not passing on a part of the law requiring that guns be licensed. It said that issuing a license to a handgun owner, so the weapon can be used at home, would be a sufficient remedy for the Second Amendment violatrion of denying any access to a handgun.

What Makes Me Tick

Check out my Flag Page and see what makes me tick.

R.I.P. George Carlin

On my way to work today I heard George Carlin had died and I instantly flashed back to being about 12 years old when my brother and I found a copy of our uncle's tape of "Class Clown" and we heard the routine "7 words that can't be said on TV." We laughed so hard I thought I might wet myself. Needless to say this was something a 12 and 9 year old didn't need to be listening to and that made it even better.

As I've "matured", I have drifted from listening to George Carlin but I will miss him. My boys will also remember him as the narrator of "Thomas the Tank Engine" and the voice of Fillmore in the movie Cars.

Big News Has To Wait

My big news has to wait for reasons I will explain later so just stay tuned..

Vacation is Over

My vacation is over and I have to go to work tomorrow. Tomorrow is a big day, more to come...

We Are Home

After 5 states, 4 bed and breakfasts and 1749 miles, we are home.

It was a great vacation but I'm glad to be home.

A Day At The Beach

Day 3 of our vacation was spent on the beach. We got to the beach around 9:30 AM and it was beautiful.

There was a gentle breeze and it wasn't too hot. And, the sand was as white as it was the last time we were here.

It was a day of adventure and discovery for the boys. While this wasn't their first trip to the beach, neither had ever really been in the ocean. It took a little convincing but we eventually got them both out there and Seth never wanted to leave.

You could walk out at least 300 yards into the ocean and it never got over 4 feet deep so Seth could journey out quite a ways and never have it over his head. His personal best was about 75 yards on his own and 300 yards on my shoulders. The water was warm and crystal clear so it made for a good time.

Chase was less impressed with the ocean and decided to spend his time playing in the sand.

After about 5 hours on the beach, an afternoon thunderstorm rolled in and it was the perfect excuse to go take a shower and that sure felt good.

A Highlands House

Nine years ago on June 14th, Shelley and I got married on a beach in Destin, Florida. We planned it all on the internet and didn't know anything about where we were going except for the pictures we had seen.

Shelley made arrangements for us and the entire family to stay in a bed and breakfast on the beach, A Highlands House. It was a wonderful experience full of great memories. Memories such as sitting on rocking chairs on a big porch and looking out over the ocean. Memories of a beach that was white as snow. Memories of being the only people on the beach in an otherwise crowded area. Memories of being secluded and almost alone.

Well, as we arrived, we realized some things had changed in 9 years. We weren't as secluded as we once were. There were houses and condos on all sides of The Highlands House. The rocking chairs on the porch were gone and replaced with adirondak chairs. And, our view of the ocean was a little obscured now because they had built houses between the house and the beach. And we were no longer the only ones on the beach.

Shelley and I expressed a little sadness to each other over some of these changes. But, then I was sitting alone and I realized it wasn't just the Highlands House that changed. I had changed a little myself. I am a few pounds heavier, have a few more gray hairs and on this trip I had a 5 year old and a 3 year old in tow.

I guess we are all due a little change now and then...

Biloxi

On the 3rd day of our vacation we made a stop in Biloxi, MS. We took a guided tour of some of Biloxi and I have to be honest, I was really affected by it.

Everyone heard and saw what Katrina did to New Orleans but to me it seems Biloxi was not mentioned. Well, after riding around and hearing the stories, I have a special respect for the people of Biloxi.

It is amazing what that storm did and 3 years later how Biloxi is still struggling to make it back. Where there were houses and businesses now are empty lots. Historic buildings are just gone and Biloxi's population is only about 60% of what it was prior to Katrina. But, the good news is they didn't give up and they are making it back.

I wonder if they will ever achieve what they are all seeking and that is for things to be back to normal.

Day 2 of Vacation

Day 2 of vacation consisted of a day spent in Lafayette Louisiana.

We took the boys to the Children's museum where they had several hours of fun playing in an ambulance, grocery shopping, working in a restaurant.

After leaving Lafayette we travelled through Baton Rouge and made a stop in Galvez, LA. Never heard of it? Well it is the home of the world famous Coleman Bed and Breakfast.

Upon arrival the boys donned their swimsuits and took a refreshing dip in the pool. We then dined on shrimp casserole, jambalaya, and hot dogs.

But, the best feature of the Coleman Bed and Breakfast is their toys. They had a playroom full of every toy a little boy could ever want and it kept our boys entertained for hours.

Also, we had very hospitable hosts and our thanks go out to Flint and Rani. We had a great time!

The Anti Fast

Our church family spent the last week participating in a fast. Shelley and I didn't particpate because we were going on vacation. So, while on vacation I had an anti-fast. I ate more fried food over the 5 days than I have eaten probably in 2 years.

But, we are going to be starting our own fast in a few days and I'm hoping it flushes everything out of my system.

Day 5 of Vacation

Day five of our vacation marked our departure from the Highlands House and Destin. But, we didn't leave without one last stint on the beach. We then had breakfast and headed to church.

We found a church that was also participating in the One Prayer series so we thought we would give it a shot. Shorline Church is an interesting church because it meets each Sunday in a Destin movie theater. The boys didn't quite ever figure out why they would do this. But, they pulled it off. One interesting thing about having church in a movie theater is that it forces you do church in a non-traditional way. Also, it forces you to stay on schedule because you have to get done before the Sunday matinees start.

Next stop was Mobile, Alabama and a visit to the USS Alabama. The area where the USS Alabama is located is also full of a variety of Navy and Air Force planes andthe USS Drum submarine. There is so much that you can't see it in just a few hours so we had to do an abbreviated tour of the USS Alabama.



After leaving the USS Alabama we headed to our next stop, Natchez, Mississippi. The trip was uneventful until the last 5 miles when Shelley, yes Shelley, got pulled over by one of Mississippi's finest. She was doing 58 in a 45 but I don't think the State Trooper was expecting to find a mother, a grandmother and 2 boys in car seats when he approached the car and he let us go on our way.

When we arrived at The Briars in Natchez, we all made an audible sigh. This was because it is an amazing place and second because the area we originally thought it was in is probably the worst area of Natchez. But, luckily we were in the wrong place. But The Briars is an amazing place.

The Briars was built between 1814 and 1818 by a wealthy planter by the name of John Perkins. It has a long history which included hosting the wedding of Jefferson Davis.

Happy Birthday Chase

I am now the father of a three year old. It sure has been a wild ride with this one.

Happy Birthday Chase!

(today is also Flag Day so Chase's birthday is always commemorated with the Flag.)

Happy Anniversary

Today is my 9th wedding anniversary. Little did I know that day when I stood on that beach and said "I do", how much my life would change. I was blessed that day and I can't thank God enough for my wife.

Tomorrow I will get to stand in the exact spot where we said our vows and I am very excited.

R.I.P Jim McKay

Jim McKay has passed away.

I can't tell you how many hours I watched and listened to Jim McKay on Wide World of Sports. He will be missed.

Celtics and Lakers

I am watching the first game of the NBA playoffs between the Boston Celtics and Los Angeles Lakers and it is bringing back a lot of memories.

As a kid I was a Boston Celtics fan, primarily because of Larry Bird. So, I watched a lot of Celtics and Lakers games. I grew to hate the Lakers and that dislike has never lessened. I'm not as big a fan of the Celtics anymore but when it comes to Celtics and Lakers, I just have one thing to say. GO CELTICS!!!

Full Armor of God

The boys are learning about the Full Armor of God in Vacation Bible School. I find it a very powerful visual when you think about wearing the armor of God to battle evil. Below is the verse they are learning and will be reciting to tonight.

10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. 12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. 18 And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints. Ephesians 6:10-18

My New Addiction

I have an addictive personality and I now have a new addiction, twitter. I have rejected twitter up to this point as being frivilous but it has sucked me in.

Come check me out on twitter.

http://twitter.com/jeffdowdle

Memorial Day 2008

Check out this post on Shelley's blog. This is what we did today.

National Moment of Rememberance

The National Moment of Remembrance, established by Congress, asks Americans wherever they are at 3 p.m., local time, on Memorial Day to pause in an act of national unity (duration: one minute).The time 3 p.m. was chosen because it is the time when most Americans are enjoying their freedoms on the national holiday. The Moment does not replace traditional Memorial Day events; rather it is an act of national unity in which all Americans, alone or with family and friends, honor those who died for our freedom. It will help to reclaim Memorial Day as the sacred and noble holiday it was meant to be. In this shared remembrance, we connect as Americans.

Game 2 of Baseball Season

Today was Seth's second game of the baseball season and it is really neat to see all the kids improve. As I mentioned in an earlier post, Seth has a good coach and he is making progress with them.

In today's game, in Seth's first at bat he had a foul tip before he got a hit off the tee. But, in his second at bat he actually got a hit off the coach.

It was very exciting.

I survived a visit from the ATF

I have a little business and by its nature, the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco and Firearms (ATF) has regulation responsibilities.

Well, today I had a scheduled visit from one of their agents and I have to admit I was a little nervous. It's not everyday you have a Federal agent in your home going through your business. Plus, if you have heard some of the horror stories out there regarding the ATF and some of their practices, you know anything can happen.

Well, the agent was quite friendly and professional and his visit/inspection only took 30 minutes and I think I came out of it with flying colors.

Whew, I'm glad it is over though.

Samson

This weekend our Pastor spoke about Samson and then last night I was watching T.D. Jakes and he was also talking about Samson and they were very similar messages.

What I took away is that you first have to go down before you go up and that when you are "going through" your "go through" God is building your strength so when Satan comes back and tries to take you back through your "go through" you will be stronger.

I realy feel I am going through my "go through" and I hope I am getting stronger.

Looking Handsome

Yesterday Seth had a piano recital so we bought him a new pair of pants, shirt, shoes and a tie. We told him he looked handsome.

This morning as we are getting ready for church he said he wanted to wear his tie and look handsome. So, he and Chase went to church wearing their ties while I was in my jeans. I am starting to question their paternity because I only wear a tie when I absolutely have to. But, they did look handsome...

Wild and Crazy Guy

If you ask anyone that knows me to describe me, I doubt the first descriptor out of their mouth would be a "wild and crazy guy". Well, that might change in the near future. More to come...

Baseball Season has started

Seth's baseball season has started and he had his first practice tonight. He has moved up to coach pitch but if they don't hit it after 3 pitches they get to hit it off the tee.

Tonight's practice was good and he has a very good coach. He is actually teaching them fundamentals and I feel at the end of the season they will have a much better understanding of baseball.

I'm excited about the season. I also got a schedule for the Air Hogs so we might have to go check out one of their games. (If you check out their website, those that know me will be able to see exactly where I would have picked up a schedule).

I'm Tired

I am really tired. This was a very busy weekend.

It started Friday night by going to our favorite Mexican restaurant followed by taking the boys to see a theatrical production of Charlie and the Chocolate factory.

Saturday started with breakfast with men from my church home team and continuation of our study of 1 Timothy. Then the family and I drove to Oklahoma where we stopped and toured a facility that we are thinking about opening up our business in.

Then we spent the next 6 hours at a family Reunion where we all played hard. I was 0 - 3 in volleyball games. We then went to the other side of the family and were up until almost midnight visiting.

Today started off with a little Mother's Day celebration followed by Sunday school, church and then back home for a little more family time. We then got in the car and made the 2 hour drive back home and now here I sit. I'm tired.

Bible Quiz

I have to admit these results surprised me.

You know the Bible 86%!

 

Wow! You are awesome! You are a true Biblical scholar, not just a hearer but a personal reader! The books, the characters, the events, the verses - you know it all! You are fantastic!

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Mental Health Day

I took the day off from work today for a mental health day. I'm sure Shelley will tell you I really needed it.

Kindergarten Kick Off

This week was Kindergarten Kick Off for Seth. This was when Seth registered for kindergarten. It is hard to believe I am going to have a kindergartener.

Smoking in the Boy's Room

I get to work pretty early and I am usually the only one in the office initially. But, the way our office is constructed it is hard to know who is there and who isn't. Well, somebody has started getting there early as well and for some reason they have a need to smoke in the men's room every morning.

I don't know if they think no one can tell but we can. It smells discusting in there and I haven't been able to figure out who it is. I'm thinking about leaving them a note or something just to let them know I'm looking for them.

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Light Blogging

My blogging has been light lately and I think it is because my laptop battery won't hold a charge. I can't use my laptop unless it is plugged in so being "tethered" all the time has cramped my creative juices.

New laptop battery is on its way so I should be back to normal in a few days.

A Man's Nothing Box

Ladies, if you learn and understand the concept in this video, you will better understand your husbands, boyfriends and sons.

Heard Around The House

Seth - I want Victoria to come to our house. Can we give her a map so she knows where we live?

Me- Yes, Is Victorian your girlfriend?

Seth - No! (looking at me like I'm an idiot)

Me - Who is your girlfriend?

Seth - Marley. (said like this was common knowledge)

Dallas Cowboys' 2008 Draft

The Cowboys finished up their 2008 draft and I must say, I'm not too excited. Felix Jones is interesting but I have a problem drafting a running back in the first round that can't be your every down back.

Mike Jenkins might be an interesting player and with his addition along with Pacman Jones, a once very weak position might now be their strongest.

Here are the picks

1.(22 overall) Felix Jones - RB - Arkansas
2.(25 overall) Mike Jenkins - CB - South Florida
3.(61 overall) Martellus Bennett - TE - Texas A&M
4.(122 overall) Tashard Choice - RB - Georgia Tech
5.(143 overall) Orlando Scandrick - CB - Boise State
6.(167 overall) Erik Walden - DE - Middle Tennessee State

Pajama Day

Today we had one of our "pajama days." The theory is that we don't get out of our pajamas for the day and we do very little. As it was the case today, everyone stays in their pajamas except me. I just can't do it..

But, we did very little today and it felt nice.

Latest Cowboy Stadium Pics

Here are the latest Cowboy Stadium pictures.

Heard Around The House

Tonight while we were eating dinner Chase got mad at me and said.

Chase - Daddy, go to your room.
He didn't like the fact that I laughed and it made him even angrier he so he said then.

Chase - I am going to spank your bottom and send you to your room.

Then as I sat their laughing, Seth stands up and says:

Seth - I have to go poo poo.
Shelley - Ok, go
Seth - Mommy, I tell you because I want you to know.

Time for a new car

Well, I finally did it, I got a new car. This is a rare occurance for me considering the last time I bought a new car was over 8 years ago. On our way home tonight from the dealership, I told Seth, who is 5, that he needs to take care of this car because it could be his first car. One might think I'm kidding but Shelley knows, I am serious. :-)

Anyway, this is what I got.



It is a 2008 Saturn Outlook.

Parent Hell

What is "Parent Hell"? 3 words. Chuck E. Cheese.

Seth had a friend who had a birthday party there today and I have never been so happy to leave a place as I was when we left there tonight.

Full specs on the Dallas Cowboys world's largest 1080p LED scoreboards

The specs are here.

Contract Negotiations

Seth has a friend who gets paid $1 for every soccer goal he scores. This has been happening since last season and Seth has never asked for the same treatment, until this morning.

As we were getting ready for his game this morning Seth asked if he could get money for his goals. So I asked him what he thought a fair price would be.

Seth - 10
Me - 10 cents?
Seth - No, 10 dollars.

Athletes today!

So I countered with a dollar and he accepted.

He earned $2 today.

I just have to vent

As many of you know, my brother and I have a small business we have started that is a firearm retailer.

Yesterday I was preparing to do an email campaign to our customers and I had decided to try www.verticalresponse.com. They have a really cool product with some pretty neat features and it is also really affordable. I was really excited about it.

Well, I sent the first email last night and this morning I received an email from their support saying that they were not going to deliver my emails because it violated their policies. So, I called to inquire what was so offensive about my email but I knew what they were going to say. I got their support person on and asked why they weren't going to deliver my email. He reviewed the email and came back and said "well, its obvious why we wouldn't send this email."

"Obvious?" I asked.
"It's about guns, we wouldn't send something about guns"
I asked why they wouldn't and he said it was against their policy.
I asked, "why, are they illegal?"
He replied, "well, I don't know." So, I said "just so you know, they aren't. There is this thing called the 2nd Amendment"
Well, we just don't send things about guns, that is our policy. I inquired to see the policy and he couldn't provide them so I found this on their website.

Prohibited Content
5.1 VerticalResponse prohibits Customers from sending email messages with content that is of the following nature:
5.1.1 Messages that are in any way illegal such as sales of illegal substances, solicitation of escort services, or sales of any products or services that cannot be legally sold by Customer;
5.1.2 Pornographic messages;
5.1.3 Grossly offensive messages such as messages promoting hatred, bigotry, intolerance of religious beliefs, racism or any other messages that VerticalResponse, at its sole discretion, may deem to be offensive;
5.1.4 Includes images that are not expressly authorized by either VerticalResponse or the owner of such images;
5.1.5 Introduces any computer viruses, worms or software code that is detrimental to Customer's recipients;
5.1.6 Any messages that includes spam (See VerticalResponse's anti-Spam Policy); or
5.1.7 Any messages that are in any way prohibited by applicable law, would constitute a violation of applicable law or be inconsistent with community standards in any jurisdiction in which the recipient resides.

I emailed asking which part of their policy they referred to and just got a reply that it was against their policy to advertise the sale of firearms.

So, just know www.verticalresponse.com isn't on the side of the 2nd Amendment.

Talking Slooooow

Tonight Chase and I were have a disagreement on a few topics of fact. Chase believed that my problem was that I just didn't understand him so he started looking me directly in the eye and talking real slooooooooooooow. He just knew that would make me understand.

The Masters - A Disappointment

This year's Masters was a disappointment. It lacked all of the drama that is usually present because nobody made a charge. It was setup perfectly for Tiger to win but he just couldn't make that crucial shot when it was needed.

Shelley and I have been thinking about how life is just too short and one of my dreams is to go to the Masters. So I found these packages that you can purchase.

She says I should go but I don't think she has seen the prices.

Practice Round Packages

Tournament Packages

How Are You Living Your Life

Yesterday I went to a funeral and as I looked around at a thousand or so people who had come to honor her, I started thinking about my own life.

Am I living my life to have the kind of impact she did? Am I affecting people I don't even know?

Her death was tragic, she died way too soon. When I heard about her death my first question was why would God take her, she had so much left to do and so many people to touch.

I haven't been able to stop thinking about her since she died and I haven't stopped thinking about my own life.

Vanessa's work will continue on in her death because she did touch so many people including myself and I hope I can touch just a percentage of the people she did.

The Masters

The Masters started today and it is one of my favorite sporting events. I continue to have hope that I can go to it one day.

Bluebonnets

The Bluebonnets are out...

Prayers Needed

My journey to Christ was a lengthy one and it took several people to accomplish it. First and primary was my awesome wife who invited me to church and kept me going and showed me through words and actions what it meant to be a follower of Christ.

But, it also took an awesome church and and an awesome pastor. But, since I am hard headed and stubborn, I was going to need to hear his words as often as possible.

The thing that kept me going back to church initially was the incredible music ministry at our church and one of the people responsible for that was a woman named Vanessa.

She has the most incredible voice and on several occasions has moved me to tears. Now I am in tears for a different reason. She is fighting for her life. We have never been introduced nor have we ever even spoken but I have a special connection to her because of her role in my journey.

Please pray for Vanessa, we need a miracle.

Just When You Are About To Kill Them

Just when you are about to kill them, you hear this exchange in the backseat.

Seth - "Chase, I love you."
Chase - "I love you Seth."

Ahhh, brothers...

A Teenagers View of Heaven

I received this in an email the other day and just had to pass it on.

A TEENAGER'S VIEW OF HEAVEN

17-year-old Brian Moore had only a short time to write something for a class. The subject was what Heaven was like. 'I wowed 'em,' he later told his father, Bruce. 'It's a killer. It's the bomb. It's the best thing I ever wrote..' It also was the last.

Brian Moore died May 27, 1997, the day after Memorial Day. He was driving home from a friend's house when his car went off Bulen-Pierce Road in Pickaway County and struck a utility pole. He emerged from the wreck unharmed but stepped on a downed power line and was electrocuted.

The Moores framed a copy of Brian's essay and hung it among the family portraits in the living room. 'I think God used him to make a point. I think we were meant to find it and make something out of it,' Mrs. Moore said of the essay. She and her husband want to share their son's vision of life after death. 'I'm happy for Brian. I know he's in heaven. I know I'll see him.'

Brian's Essay: The Room...

In that place between wakefulness and dreams, I found myself in the room. There were no distinguishing features except for the one wall covered with small index card files. They were like the ones in libraries that list titles by author or subject in alphabetical order. But these files, which stretched from floor to ceiling and seemingly endless in either direction, had very different headings. As I drew near the wall of files, the first to catch my attention was one that read 'Girls I have liked.' I opened it and began flipping through the cards. I quickly shut it, shocked to realize that I recognized the names written on each one. And then without being told, I knew exactly where I was.

This lifeless room with its small files was a crude catalog system for my life. Here were written the actions of my every moment, big and small, in a detail my memory couldn't match. A sense of wonder and curiosity, coupled with horror, stirred within me as I began randomly opening files and exploring their content. Some brought joy and sweet memories; others a sense of shame and regret so intense that I would look over my shoulder to see if anyone was watching.

A file named 'Friends' was next to one marked 'Friends I have betrayed.' The titles ranged from the mundane to the outright weird 'Books I Have Read,' 'Lies I Have Told,' 'Comfort I have Given,' 'Jokes I Have Laughed at ' Some were almost hilarious in their exactness: 'Things I've yelled at my brothers.' Others I couldn't laugh at: 'Things I Have Done in My Anger', 'Things I Have Muttered Under My Breath at My Parents.' I never ceased to be surprised by the contents.

Often there were many more cards than I expected. Sometimes fewer than I hoped. I was overwhelmed by the sheer volume of the life I had lived. Could it be possible that I had the time in my years to fill each of these thousands or even millions of cards? But each card confirmed this truth. Each was written in my own handwriting. Each signed with my signature.

When I pulled out the file marked 'TV Shows I have watched', I realized the files grew to contain their contents. The cards were packed tightly, and yet after two or three yards, I hadn't found the end of the file. I shut it, shamed, not so much by the quality of shows but more by the vast time I knew that file represented.

When I came to a file marked 'Lustful Thoughts,' I felt a chill run through my body. I pulled the file out only an inch, not willing to test its size and drew out a card. I shuddered at its detailed content.

I felt sick to think that such a moment had been recorded. An almost animal rage broke on me. One thought dominated my mind: No one must ever see these cards! No one must ever see this room! I have to destroy them!' In insane frenzy I yanked the file out. Its size didn't matter now. I had to empty it and burn the cards. But as I took it at one end and began pounding it on the floor, I could not dislodge a single card. I became desperate and pulled out a card, only to find it as strong as steel when I tried to tear it.

Defeated and utterly helpless, I returned the file to its slot. Leaning my forehead against the wall, I let out a long, self-pitying sigh.

And then I saw it.. The title bore 'People I Have Shared the Gospel With.' The handle was brighter than those around it,seemed newer, almost unused. I pulled on its handle and a small box not more than three inches long fell into my hands. I could count the cards it contained on one hand.

And then the tears came. I began to weep. Sobs so deep that they hurt. They started in my stomach and shook through me. I fell on my knees and cried. I cried out of shame, from the overwhelming shame of it all. The rows of file shelves swirled in my tear-filled eyes. No one must ever, ever know of this room. I must lock it up and hide the key. But then as I pushed away the tears, I saw Him.

No, please not Him. Not here. Oh, anyone but Jesus. I watched helplessly as He began to open the files and read the cards. I couldn't bear to watch His response. And in the moments I could bring myself to look at His face, I saw a sorrow deeper than my own.

He seemed to intuitively go to the worst boxes. Why did He have to read every one? Finally He turned and looked at me from across the room. He looked at me with pity in His eyes. But this was a pity that didn't anger me. I dropped my head, covered my face with my hands and began to cry again. He walked over and put His arm around me. He could have said so many things. But He didn't say a word. He just cried with me.

Then He got up and walked back to the wall of files. Starting at one end of the room, He took out a file and, one by one, began to sign His name over mine on each card. 'No!' I shouted rushing to Him. All I could find to say was 'No, no,' as I pulled the card from Him. His name shouldn't be on these cards. But there it was, written in red so rich, so dark, so alive. The name of Jesus covered mine. It was written with His blood. He gently took the card back. He smiled a sad smile and began to sign the cards. I don't think I'll ever understand how He did it so quickly, but the next instant it seemed I heard Him close the last file and walk back to my side.

He placed His hand on my shoulder and said, 'It is finished.' I stood up, and He led me out of the room. There was no lock on its door. There were still cards to be written.

'I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.'-Phil. 4:13 'For God so loved the world that He gave His only son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.' If you feel the same way forward it so the love of Jesus will touch their lives also. My 'People I shared the gospel with' file just got bigger, how about yours?

The Perfect Push Up

One of the first things I learned about Shelley was she is a night owl. And, because of this trait she watches a lot of late night television and is always wanting to buy things from infomercials. She believes anything Billy Mays his selling is something is worth having.

I on the other hand, being as cheap as I am, have never really succumbed to the infomercial. Well, until now.

I bought the Perfect Push Up.



I have to admit they are the hardest push ups I have ever done. Ordinarily I can do between 30 - 50 push ups but with these I could only manage 12.

Now that I bought the perfect push up I may have to let Shelley and the boys get what they have been wanting.